6 Cute Ways To Ask Your BFF to be Your Maid of Honour

It’s not only the men that need to think of quirky and creative ideas to pop the big question. Oh no – us women need to do it too. “Will you be my maid of honour?” is a question we ask our best friend or our sister – the person we want standing next to us as we exchange our vows with the one we love. It’s a special moment, so why not match it with a special gesture and go all out when you pop the question to your best friend? Just remember, she will be the one there for you when times get overwhelming, so don’t take your bestie for granted, make her feel valued and appreciated. Our team here at Pink Book Weddings has brainstormed a few cute ideas for you in order to ensure that your wedding planning journey starts off on a high note!

6 Ways to Ask Your Maid of Honour:

1. Make Your Bestie a Scrapbook

A cute and creative way of asking your bestie to be your maid of honour is to create a scrapbook or a photo album capturing your friendship and your favourite moments together. Try to order the photos in a time frame, so that it starts at when you met and ends at the latest photo of the two of you together. On the last page, write the caption “The bride and the maid of honour” with a space for a photo of the two of you on your wedding day! Check out of amazing stationery vendors for some inspiration and ideas.

scrapbook maid of honour

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2. Prep a Gift Box

Buy your bestie a gift box with a few of the following items: face masks, nail polish, teacups, a bottle of sparkling wine and a year planner! Create the gift box in such a way that when your bestie opens it, she reads a sweet message from you. You can insert whatever message you feel best suits your friendship, for example, “I found my mister but I still need my sister. Will you be my maid of honour?”

maid of honour gift box

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3. Get a “Will you be my Maid of Honour” Glass

There are great “maid of honour” products available at various party stores. This includes cute and useful items such as mugs or glasses. Check out Custom Gifts for some cute options! Our idea: get some sparkling wine with your bestie at your favourite bar/restaurant, but make sure the waiter brings her drink in the custom glass. For this plan to work, the safest option is to make these arrangements a day before the time. Take your glass to the bar/restaurant a day early and call the restaurant in the morning to remind them!

Be my maid of honour glass

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4. Take her For Lunch

If neither of you is big on bubbly, incorporate your big gesture by means of lunch! Take your bestie out and have the chef sneak in the question somehow. We like the idea of it being written out. Having “Will you be my maid of honour?” written out in chocolate sauce on a plate, with a little scoop of ice cream and a sparkler is a really fun and adorable way of asking you BFF to stand next to you on your big day! Alternatively, ask for a little takeaway dessert with the message displayed, such as an “I doughnut want to get married without you” gift!

wedding donut idea

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5. Pop the Question with a Ring!

If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it. Buy your bestie a ring box with the message inside. Don’t stress – you don’t have to buy her a real ring, you can always buy one of those massive candy rings to add a bit of humour to your special moment!

maid of honour rings

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6. Cute and Creative Cards and Gifts

If you’re not really one for words or big gestures, getting your BFF a small gift or a card is a thoughtful and kind way of showing how much you care. Sometimes cards or gestures say things better than what we could have said them. There are some really funny, sweet and quirky cards available from various party/stationary stores. Pick the one which you feel most suits your friendship. Check out Custom Gifts for some inspiration.

be my maid of honour puzzle

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Caitlin is currently a student at the Aleit Academy, where she gets to plan and coordinate weddings and events around the Western Cape. She has always had a love for language and writing, which brought her to Pink Book Weddings! She loves hiking, cooking and going to the beach.


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